The POWER of Proximity...

Hi guys and welcome to SPRING :)

There’s some really exciting things kicking off at BBB at the moment.  This is partly because we’re utter geniuses of course, but also largely due to being connected and in proximity to a large number of motivated, driven, creative and successful individuals.  It’s this concept of proximity to inspirational people that I want to share with you this month.

We tend to attract, and be attracted to, people similar to ourselves.  This is great for making friends but not all that useful for creating change in ourselves and our lives.  It’s been well documented that who we associate with we become.  Therefore, one of the fastest ways of creating change is to associate with those individuals that possess the skills, attributes, ideas and experience that we wish to have ourselves.  Simply aligning ourselves with people who are who we desire to become and have what we wish to have can create massive leaps in personal development.  Conversely, aligning ourselves with those who reflect opposing traits to what we wish for ourselves will negatively effect our ability to create the desired change… or at the very least slow it down.

This isn’t to say that you should cull your friends or family members who do not align with who you wish to become.  It’s just worth acknowledging the effect these individuals are having on you and as always ‘choose’ whether to be influenced by them or not.  Then try expanding your circle of contacts, friends and associates to include those similar to who you wish to become and who inspire you to create the changes you hope for.

Answer these simple questions to get you started:

What am I trying to bring about?

Who do I need to be/become in order to bring about these outcomes?

Who has already achieved what I’m aiming for?

Who is already the type of person I need to be/be like?

Who do I already know with/like that?

Where do people who have/are like that exist?

Once you have the answers to these questions you can now set about expanding your circle of associations to include these people; or in other words, your circle of influence.  The power of taking this action cannot be stressed enough.  The strengths and limitations we have are learnt from the exposure to events, cultures/sub-cultures and individuals thus far in our lives.  Once we decide upon who we are (albeit unconsciously) we will tend to attract and be attracted to likeminded individuals.  This in terms of our species’ survival is critical because ‘fitting in’ and being accepted is a priority to our safety… i.e. safety in numbers, the pack, tribe, etc.  This is where our need for acceptance and love comes from as well as our fear or rejection, ridicule, etc.  In short, people who are like us, ‘like us’.  This truly limits our ability to grow beyond our current potential.

My simple advice is this:

1) Align/spend time with those individuals you know who reflect the very best in your current personality, behaviour, beliefs, etc

2) Align yourself/spend time with those you know who poses the personality, behavioural and belief traits you currently don’t posses but identify as needed to progress your life, happiness, dreams, etc.

3) Go find new associations who align with the above.

4) Limit the time you spend consorting with those mis-aligned, or worse who are opposite to what you’re trying to achieve.

5) Give something of yourself to these individuals… your very best.  You won’t find these individuals hanging around long if it’s all one-way, namely your way.

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The power of the right group is extraordinary and very tangible once experienced.  This is just one of the reasons, I’m setting up BBB Success Groups.  I want to create a powerful, creative, inspirational, supportive environment for likeminded, driven individuals.  Many of us aren’t lucky enough to have a preponderance of these people in our lives.  Fortunately, our own personal development and the work we do brings us continually in contact with just such people and the positive effects on us and our business are truly coming to fruition.

I want to offer this huge advantage to others as well as leading, coaching and inspiring the greatest changes they wish to create.

So, whether you want to apply for a position in one of our groups or go create your own positive group of individuals, I encourage you to explore the huge benefits of building yourself a close circle of positive and aligned influences.

Good luck, not that you’ll need it ;)

George.