"It's Just a Story"

As many of you are already aware, I worked for a few years as a university lecturer teaching on BA Honours film degree courses.  As I saw it, my job was to inspire the students to push themselves to explore the limits of their technical and storytelling skills whilst in the supportive and safe environment of education.  I would challenge them to not play it safe and to dare to tell the best stories in the most engaging and compelling way.  After all, many would leave university and be restricted by client or studio remits so what better time to experiment and find ‘their voice’.

I’ve always been a lover of film; all film.  I have my favourites in many categories from shear entertainment to highbrow ‘connoisseur’ type films.  For me it’s about just a few things: am I engaged in the characters and the story, can I connect with the characters and story and finally do I get completely lost and absorbed in the whole experience.  Once a film achieves that, in whatever way the genre demands, then, for me, its job is done.

A good film, always starts with a good story.  There is real power in a good story, it has the power to allow us to reflect, challenge, learn, assess, grow or even heal.  A quality story will not do this obviously but will achieve its outcomes through careful and deliberate metaphors and the ‘takeaways’ from immersing ourselves in good stories can run deep and be life changing.

Storytelling is how we have always passed on wisdom and teachings

The reason stories can have a profound impact on us runs hand in hand with how I create huge life-changing seminar events for people.  It’s about the experience.  If the viewer, listener or reader of a story is having any form of chemical release (emotional experience) associated with what’s unfolding then their subconscious is learning.  As I’ve written before and talk incessantly about, the chemical releases we have create our entire experience, which we interpret as ‘reality’.  This means that if your subconscious is giving you any form of chemical ‘hit’ during the story, it isn’t ‘aware’ that it’s not real.  Chemical responses are there to prompt us to take physical action (our survival instincts) and unless the ‘thing’ we’re reacting to actually exists in the real world, the chemical reaction is redundant.  Good stories manipulate our subconscious to give us an experience, or to create an alternative ‘reality’.  If we are not fully engaged in the story or characters we will not be getting the same hit of chemicals and the impact of the story will be greatly reduced.  Conversely if we’re loaded up with chemical responses during the story we will have a profound experience and any message that is contained within the story will most likely have been absorbed into the subconscious.  Remember to create any deep change in us this is where the learning needs to hit.  Stories can engage the conscious mind to entertain but also stimulate the learning mechanisms of the subconscious to facilitate small or even large changes of personality, beliefs, behaviours or perspectives.

Next time you’re ‘having an experience’ from reading a good book or watching a great film take a moment to think about what’s going on in your mind and body.  Then think about what your subconscious is learning and how this learning effects personalities.  We are an accumulation of our experiences and leanings to this date.  We learnt through our experiences, whether they be direct, witnessed or taught to us.  What we read or view also constitutes our experiences and such moulds who we are.  Think about this the next time you’re watching a scary or violent film or maybe something depressing or stressful…your subconscious cannot disseminate whether what you are engaged in is real or not and will absorb the experience into it’s learning.  Is that really the experience you want to have?  Is that really what you want to teach you subconscious?  Is that really who you want to be?  Is that the world you really wish to inhabit?  A ‘dip’ into violence here or there or horror or sadness won’t hurt and can educate positively if done well but to constantly immerse oneself in negative experiences will create change in you just as it would if it was actually real.  The degree of impact of this will be determined by the degree of ‘experience’ had.  For example if you enjoy a good horror film and are entertained but are not having a negative emotional experience then the chances are little or no negative learning has taken place.  However if, like me, these film leave you unsettled for some time after or play on your mind, rest assured, you’ve had a negative experience and your subconscious is a little worse for it. 

I argue against that telling yourself ‘it’s just a story’ negates the negative psychological impact of some film and stories.  The determining factor is always going to be the experience you are having.  And as I’ve already said, I good story is the one where you are completely engaged and absorbed in it.  If you are aware you’re watching a film, it’s not a good film. If you’re aware you’re reading a book, it’s not a good book and ultimately if you ‘know it’s not real’, it’s not done its job.

As a final thought, nothing changes when applying the above to computer games.  I wish it wasn’t the case but everything I know tells me that what we watch, read or even play changes us in a manner associated with what we’re watching, reading, playing.  It’s possible the experience will show us a better of being but it also might be giving us a distorted, negative ‘reality’.  I think all stories are valid but as with anything in life, be aware of the experience you’re having and the associated learning your subconscious is doing and the possible resultant personality or belief changes that might be occurring.  We are here to experience as all experience is living.  My challenge to my students is to be clear about what experience they want their audience to have and what teachings or outcomes they wish to leave them with, all whilst entertaining.

I love a good story and I love great film and that’s why I’m delighted to be running the “Hollywood Experience”, 3-day summer film schools for kids this year.  The basis of the courses will be how to tell stories and then convert them into film and ascertain the impact their film will have on their audience.  The final films will vary in ‘quality’ and effectiveness but the learning they get will last with them as will the fun time they have.

If you would like more information on the summer film schools please visit:

http://www.biggerbrighterbolder.co.uk/HEX.html

The POWER of Proximity...

Hi guys and welcome to SPRING :)

There’s some really exciting things kicking off at BBB at the moment.  This is partly because we’re utter geniuses of course, but also largely due to being connected and in proximity to a large number of motivated, driven, creative and successful individuals.  It’s this concept of proximity to inspirational people that I want to share with you this month.

We tend to attract, and be attracted to, people similar to ourselves.  This is great for making friends but not all that useful for creating change in ourselves and our lives.  It’s been well documented that who we associate with we become.  Therefore, one of the fastest ways of creating change is to associate with those individuals that possess the skills, attributes, ideas and experience that we wish to have ourselves.  Simply aligning ourselves with people who are who we desire to become and have what we wish to have can create massive leaps in personal development.  Conversely, aligning ourselves with those who reflect opposing traits to what we wish for ourselves will negatively effect our ability to create the desired change… or at the very least slow it down.

This isn’t to say that you should cull your friends or family members who do not align with who you wish to become.  It’s just worth acknowledging the effect these individuals are having on you and as always ‘choose’ whether to be influenced by them or not.  Then try expanding your circle of contacts, friends and associates to include those similar to who you wish to become and who inspire you to create the changes you hope for.

Answer these simple questions to get you started:

What am I trying to bring about?

Who do I need to be/become in order to bring about these outcomes?

Who has already achieved what I’m aiming for?

Who is already the type of person I need to be/be like?

Who do I already know with/like that?

Where do people who have/are like that exist?

Once you have the answers to these questions you can now set about expanding your circle of associations to include these people; or in other words, your circle of influence.  The power of taking this action cannot be stressed enough.  The strengths and limitations we have are learnt from the exposure to events, cultures/sub-cultures and individuals thus far in our lives.  Once we decide upon who we are (albeit unconsciously) we will tend to attract and be attracted to likeminded individuals.  This in terms of our species’ survival is critical because ‘fitting in’ and being accepted is a priority to our safety… i.e. safety in numbers, the pack, tribe, etc.  This is where our need for acceptance and love comes from as well as our fear or rejection, ridicule, etc.  In short, people who are like us, ‘like us’.  This truly limits our ability to grow beyond our current potential.

My simple advice is this:

1) Align/spend time with those individuals you know who reflect the very best in your current personality, behaviour, beliefs, etc

2) Align yourself/spend time with those you know who poses the personality, behavioural and belief traits you currently don’t posses but identify as needed to progress your life, happiness, dreams, etc.

3) Go find new associations who align with the above.

4) Limit the time you spend consorting with those mis-aligned, or worse who are opposite to what you’re trying to achieve.

5) Give something of yourself to these individuals… your very best.  You won’t find these individuals hanging around long if it’s all one-way, namely your way.

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The power of the right group is extraordinary and very tangible once experienced.  This is just one of the reasons, I’m setting up BBB Success Groups.  I want to create a powerful, creative, inspirational, supportive environment for likeminded, driven individuals.  Many of us aren’t lucky enough to have a preponderance of these people in our lives.  Fortunately, our own personal development and the work we do brings us continually in contact with just such people and the positive effects on us and our business are truly coming to fruition.

I want to offer this huge advantage to others as well as leading, coaching and inspiring the greatest changes they wish to create.

So, whether you want to apply for a position in one of our groups or go create your own positive group of individuals, I encourage you to explore the huge benefits of building yourself a close circle of positive and aligned influences.

Good luck, not that you’ll need it ;)

George.

Running Your Own Race…

In life it can sometimes seem difficult to do things ‘your way’.  It’s easy to get caught up in everyone else’s ‘game’.  As a kickboxing coach I used to always say that you need to fight your own fight.  The second you get drawn into the other person’s fight, i.e. their strategy, strengths or even down right stupidity, you lose….or at the very least, make it very difficult for yourself.  I have the privilege now of knowing many successful people from other sports such as motor racing and volleyball.  Each has their own way of saying the same thing whether it is, race your own race or play your own game.  The message is the same in successful business or any other area of life… you must always play 'your' game, your way otherwise you’ll get pulled into someone else’s game which will to some degree or other will be more detrimental, difficult or down right painful ;)

Play to your strengths and train your weaknesses.  Know your abilities and set challenging but realistic goals.  That said don’t let experience or limitations in self belief get in the way of setting the biggest 'dreams' available, it's just each step, or goal, along the way that has to be perceived as achievable.  Once you’re underway, go your own pace and do things the way you planned.  Always look for feedback that your strategy/game plan is working….if it’s not look at changing the strategy, ON YOUR TERMS.

By all means go and get advice, mentoring, coaching or whatever you need to be able to put your own game plan together but at the end of the day, take ownership of your strategy or plan and deliver it the best way you see fit.  The very best in any field do it their ‘own way’.  They educate themselves and maybe even model other successful people but when the race starts or the ‘game’ begins, they play it full out, ‘THEIR WAY’.

This entire metaphor for living your life your way was bought home recently as me and Tracey ran the Reading Half Marathon.  I had done my training and I went in the run knowing exactly what I could expect from myself.  There was pressure from my group to head a little up the start line to the slightly faster runners.  This was the first opportunity I had to challenge myself to ‘run my own race’ and it was well before the thing had even started.  I stood my ground and lined up where I knew my paced runners were…..just behind the two fairies and to the side of the massive yellow banana ;)

The race started and immediately the excitement on top of being in front of hundreds of supporters got hold of many around me and off they went at speed.  The temptation to join them was immense.  Everything in me wanted to keep up but for the second time that day I exerted my game plan and ran my own race starting exactly as I had planned, i.e. nice and slow.  Inevitably just two or three miles up the road I’m running past the 'fast to start, slow to finish' brigade as they walk up the notorious first big hill.  I keep to my own pace and settle into the run.

Mile after mile people run past me at speed and then I plod past them as they walk to grab a rest bite.  This goes on till the end of the race right up until I cross the line with people who have sprinted past me and then I've overtaken as they walk.  I’m not judging them for how they chose to ‘run their race’ but I had to really keep to my own game plan and strategy and, in this situation, ultimately my own pace.  I won’t lie, it was seriously mucking about with my mojo and it was incredibly difficult to settle into a pace with the group of walkers, sprinters, 6ft dogs and superheroes dancing all around me.  But, I was disciplined and I knew my limitations and my strengths and ‘ran my own race’ and got the outcome I went out to get, which was to complete the entire course without stopping or waking.  I crossed the line with zero energy or strength left, a clear indication that you’ve done your absolute best regardless of where you come.  I couldn’t have done it any faster on the day and if I had got caught up in anyone else’s race, I wouldn’t have achieved my outcome.

What amused me every time, was as we approached the water stations where many spectators hang out, the ‘walkers’ would leap into action and run through proudly…such is the power of how we feel about how we're perceived by others….I mean who were they kidding?   ;)

As a final note, my biggest challenge to sticking to my game plan was at around the 8 mile mark where there is an incredibly steep hill followed by gentle inclines which seem to go on forever.  My goal was to run the entire 13 miles but as my legs started wavering half-way up the hill I seemed to be one of only a handful of people around me still running.  The whole run had, for that short period, become a walk and it would have been so easy to have joined them…no-one would have judged and my mind was manipulating me saying it would be okay to walk because, well, look at everyone else.  My resolution to my goal and game plan of not caring how long it took me as long as I run the bloody thing, won through and I plodded upwards and onwards.

The lessons in pushing yourself in something like this can be taken into any/all areas of life:

1) Know your outcome

2) Know your ability

3) Set yourself a realistic challenge

4) To the best of your ability, lay out a strategy playing to your strengths and limiting the effects of your limitations

5) Don’t let other’s outcomes, abilities, strengths or limitations effect your strategy

6) Run your own race, play your own game, live your own life

7) Don’t be adversely influenced by others’ races, games, lives

8) If all else fails, just keep plodding…..

My personal lesson from the run itself regarding the run was, if I ever do it again, I want to be able to run a pace that get’s me out of the pack at the back where all the sprint/walkers hang out and get myself up the pack where the more serious runners were.  For that I need to address my known limitations and get off my arse and do something about them.  Where in life should you be moving up the pack to be with the more serious runners?  ;)

Good luck in your own races and living your own life by your own rules!

George

“Love is all around me, And so the feeling grows”

Happy February you amorous lot. 

As we approach the ‘love it or hate it’ season of lurve, I thought I’d take the opportunity to spread a bit of mine….

“Roses are red

Violets are blue

We’re bio-chemically bonded

Therefore, I love you”

Not very romantic I know but it’s not an inaccurate description.  Humans have tried for thousands of years to capture, translate, describe and depict the feeling of love.  We’ve been consumed with it as a species offering up poetry, sonnet, music, art and literature in an attempt to translate this powerful obsession of humankind.  The bottom line peeps, is that it’s chemicals - a very powerful concoction of chemicals that have evolved in our species over millions of years.  Let’s assume Darwin was right, the members of our primitive species that were bonded ‘involuntary’ in small groups would have faired far better than those that didn’t.  There’s safety in numbers and chemicals bond us to keep us in relative close proximity to one another.  The two big chemical compounds here are love and fear.  ‘Fearing’ being alone, in other words weak or vulnerable, and ‘Loving’ to be close and protective/protected.  These two huge forces that have evolved over eons manipulate us more than any other.  They are two of the key driving forces in our survival, in fact, in the survival of our entire species.

Let me share a model with you: 

A man and woman’s lust hugely manipulate a very prescribed course of action essential for the ongoing survival of the species… you get the picture…

Lust turns to a powerful consuming love for each other so that the resultant offspring is born with the best chances of survival having united parents.

Baby is born and mum’s body goes mental producing chemical surges to absolutely manipulate an unquestionable bond with the baby.

The baby is also going through it’s own huge chemical bonding process.

Dad, also has a huge release of chemicals massively manipulating him into protecting mum and child.

Mum and dad’s consuming love potion flowing through their veins alters for each other and a strong supportive, bonded love follows.

Without these compounds kicking off mankind simply would not have achieved what it’s achieved, in the biggest sense of the word.  Our ridiculously weak, vulnerable and completely inept off-spring wouldn’t survive five minutes let alone the many, many years they take to mature to a state where they are able to fend for themselves.  Our species is physically weak.  We don’t run fast, we aren’t strong and we’re not very well equipped to hunt or defend ourselves.  However, we are able to bond naturally and in VAST numbers.

The nucleus family unit above is just one experience of love manipulating our actions.  We all know there are many other experiences of love; the love of a sibling or friend for example.  Again, evolution would have favoured the individuals who were capable of bonding in wider circles of people, the one’s with the most efficient ‘love’ chemical response. The love bonding of the ‘hunting pack’ remains strong in all team sports and the love of the extended tribe is what holds families and communities together and encourage them to look out for one another. 

 

Love is a powerful motivator and it shows up in various guises including the love of a place or food or football team.  Like all the base chemical responses I talk of so much, love is a subconscious reaction triggered by a ‘natural’ or learnt association.  As very conscious animals we can learn and condition all sorts of associations to trigger these chemical releases but the base premise for their existence is survival.  No more so than the chemical of love.

So why share this less-than-romantic notion with you just a few days before the ‘most romantic day of the year’?  Because my challenge to you, is to ‘choose’ to love.  As with all my teachings and philosophy, choice is the one true power our species currently has.  We have evolved beyond the pure need of primitive, automated chemical interventions.  Our conscious minds are so much more capable than our subconscious gives us credit for.  ‘We’, (the conscious voice in us) can choose what to love and what to fear even in the face of these powerful manipulative chemical compounds.

This Valentines day, enjoy the love of your intimate others if you have them, but I challenge you to grow beyond this and allow your love to extend much, much further.  Extend it to your friends and families, your communities and beyond. Share it with your fellow man and a stranger on the street and I dare you, no, I double dare you to share and express it in your own way to your enemies.

If we wait for Darwin’s evolution to take us into the next era of mankind, it might still take some time… but if choose to love ALL in this world and beyond, as we love our children and intimate lovers, we will look out for one another, we will defend one another and we will fend for one another in a way not yet experienced in our world.  In a world of seemingly increasing fear (which is just perception by the way), the antidote can be found in love.

If you’re one of the many who might ‘feel’ alone this Valentines Day, love the living shit out of the world and feel part of something very, very special indeed.  There’s seven-billion of us, trust me, you’re never alone 

“Roses are red

Violets are blue

I love you world

Because I CHOOSE to”

With love,

George.

Notable caveats.

Right you lot, I didn’t want to pepper my beautiful ‘wordsmanship’ with loads of caveats and provisos and alternatives.  I just want to add that I do not advocate the redundancy of chemicals in our bodies.  They give us some of the most wonderful experiences on offer to us.  The message I want to share is a clear one where the basic message is that love is a chemical as is fear and has evolved over eons for the best survival of our species.  This is the ‘feeling’ of love we get in our bodies I’m referring to.  I do believe in a connection that exists beyond our physical ‘chemical’ connections and you could call this universal love or another term that sits with you.  As I always promote, to master our lives we must master our experience and the chemical compounds flowing through our system at a particular time dictate our experience to us.  We can learn to ‘trigger’ the release of these chemicals through carefully choosing our thoughts and consciously choosing associations.  In short, you will most likely ‘naturally’ love your wife, partner, children etc but will struggle to create the necessary connections and associations to be able to love a stranger or even more difficult an enemy.  However it is possible, if you want to and choose to.  This ability to ‘choose’ who we become holds the power to massively hastening the evolvement of our species and elevating it to the incredible heights I believe we are capable of.  

Lastly, I’m also very aware that the order of things I promote for family bonding in the article is often not found to be the case.  Many families bond in many varying ways and equally many don’t act as depicted.  Whilst there’s may reasons for this, one of the most compelling for me is that this is evidence of the power of our ability to learn associations and conditioning which override evolution.  All we need to do is educate, trust and choose to love in its highest most evolved global/universal state and we can create a tremendous reality in the world.

Sorry, just couldn't resist  <3